Force or Flow?
Question: Is forced positivity real positivity?
I ask this because right now I am trying to be positive… really truly positive, but it still feels a bit like I am trying to cram a carrot into a pencil sharpener… you know those times in your life when things just seem stagnant, difficult, or just not what you thought it would be… these are the moments when positivity becomes my saving grace. However, having said that, it is not always easy… and, I know, no one ever said it would be…
The idea of forcing oneself to do something can be a great thing or perhaps the exact opposite of what you need to be doing…. at least in my experience. The path of least resistance seems the better bet. However, when you feel like you are stuck in the mud… sometimes you have to dig yourself out by rocking backwards and forwards in order to get a little momentum going.
Perhaps the question should really be: Is it better to force the issue or to go with the flow even if the flow isn’t really going anywhere? ( I can hear the grammar and punctuation fanatics screaming right now.)
I have had a few conversations lately and the consensus seems to be that forcing the issue is not the answer and it goes back to an earlier post about control. The things that I am wanting to change are things that are out of my control, so really, there is nothing to force.
However, I can change my perspective… enter “carrot being crammed into pencil sharpener”. I need to reset my mind and realize that maybe this is the calm before something new and exciting. Perhaps it is a respite before a time of hard work. Maybe it is just a bit of peace and calm to rejuvenate the soul. Maybe this part of my journey is just meant to be slow moving and as long as I keep making headway I will see the pay off in the end. Who knows for sure?
I found a quote the other day that said, “Change is never easy. You fight to hold on and you fight to let go.” I liked this simple quote because it created an image of an internal conflict that consumes everyone when they are going through transition. Sometimes the letting go phase is fast and movement immediate… and sometimes it takes a lot to even loosen the grip the tinniest amount. Then there are the times that you let go, freak out, and grab on again. There is a part of me that wants everything to go back to the way it was, but there is another part of me that knows that something bigger and better is in store for us and letting go is the only option. Letting go is the only way I can move forward. It is the only way I can go with the flow.